…dad and the bride have the first dance, beautiful “dad-daugther song” plays, mom drops a tear, sisters cry too, groom admires her beautiful new wife with adoration, smiling with satisfaction, dad and bride leave the dance floor, groom and mother enter, bride looks at them dancing, bride goes to talk with her friends, bride smiles for the picture her friend is taking, bride is laughing at his brother’s joke…
I can go on and on. What’s wrong with this picture? My sweat and frustration. Honest. I’m trying to get a meaningful/emotive/all-about-feelings shot, but she’s just not into it. Don’t get me wrong, I love a good time, I just don’t understand why the groom doesn’t deserve the same attention as the bride. Honoring the truth he’s also part of the play, I mean, no groom no couple, rigth? Then why not show a little courtesy to him and enjoy his moment as well as the bride’s?
Delegate before hand, and when it’s your groom’s time to shine, just look at how handsome he looks -believe me you’re not going to have that many chances to see him wearing nice suits like that, (unless he’s an executive or a millionaire, I mean.) - Give him some attention to and we’ll get wonderful pictures that you’re going to treasure forever!
Posted 3 years, 9 months ago at 7:41 pm. Add a comment
Every bride wants a magical, fairy-taley kind of wedding. The ones I remember being more magical are those where everyone is attending to the couple. The couples get everyone on board and train the bridesmaids and groonsmen on what’s expected from them. You can have a wedding like that too. Just remember that it’s all about you two, even if you two are already married and living together, are just renewing vows, or getting hitched for the second or third time.
Every one of the traditions has a meaning - some of them are a little less obvious - but it’s still a celebration of two people joining in love. Educate your wedding party; let them know the meanings of the small rituals in your wedding and what you expect from them while these take place. There’s nothing wrong with reminding them to be attentive to the couple, at least until the first dance is done.
With younger couples or younger wedding parties that haven’t been to too many weddings and don’t have experience you can request your mom or a more experienced friend to help you educate the group on what’s expected from them. But you have a great advantage because they are your friends and family. Don’t be afraid to talk to them. Tell the maid of honor that being one is beyond having a nicer bouquet: it’s more about helping you around, with the dress, the make-up, fixing your veil, fetching the dress, even getting you a bite to eat here and there. If, for example, your dream wedding inlcudes having your dear sister and she happens to be already married and has small children -assuming you’re inviting kids too- delegate some of her functions to someone else so she can also enjoy time with her family.
The Maid/Matron of honor can be in many cases your photographer liaison if you don’t have another family member in charge. But what does a photography liaison do? Fetch poeple for the pictures. Even if the photographer has a well proven system to take all the formal portraits, if you have lots of family and out of town guests, it’s very helpful to have someone bringing them in groups for the photos. You can even have one for each family.
The people who surround you can help you have the greatest time, or a very poor, stressful one. Choose wisely.
Posted 3 years, 9 months ago at 8:00 pm. Add a comment